Sucking Me In
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Here's the lies from today's crazy.
"I guess nice guys don't like you either. Why did you think it would be any other way?"
"There's someone cuter, prettier, smarter, funnier, whateverier out there that he wants to get to know more than you." (And even if this is true, what the hell difference should it make in MY head?)
And the ever present, "You're a loser. You've always been a loser. This is just another reason you are a loser."
There, now you have the sniveling, whininess that is me today. Only strangely, I don't even want to talk about it, I'm so hurt. That's why the crazy is taking over.
"I guess nice guys don't like you either. Why did you think it would be any other way?"
"There's someone cuter, prettier, smarter, funnier, whateverier out there that he wants to get to know more than you." (And even if this is true, what the hell difference should it make in MY head?)
And the ever present, "You're a loser. You've always been a loser. This is just another reason you are a loser."
There, now you have the sniveling, whininess that is me today. Only strangely, I don't even want to talk about it, I'm so hurt. That's why the crazy is taking over.
16 comments:
Kate, you are a winner.
So am I--my mom tells me every day. Maybe she can make you a tape to play for the crazies.
It probably won't help, but it's his loss and his problem. Let him deal with it.
You can be anything you set your mind to. Including a girlfriend / wife. Just keep at it.
You remember Stuart Smalley? Well, he is on the verge of being a US Senator.
Katie McKaterson. I think Number 3 is NOT a nice guy. I think he's a big fat liar and bad things need to happen to him. I'm happy to make those bad things happen, too, if you'd like. Just let me know. I have a voodoo doll with his name on it, and a long, sharp pin itching for some action.
Rejection never feels good.... its funny,. even when a loser "rejects" you - it hurts...
It's for the best though, because one of these days you'll find someone great that you deserve!
Oh, Katie! At least he clued you in to why he didn't want to see you anymore. One of the guys I dated before I met Scott just stopped calling. I thought everything was going great and then ... nothing!
I know it hurts, but take a few days then get right back on the internet. Mr. Right is out there -- he just hasn't found you yet!
Could dating be any shittier? Ack, I hate it with a passion, on the other hand, all this means is there is someone better out there for you. This guy couldn't give you what you deserve.
Still you can have one day where you feel sorry for yourself and eat Ben and Jerry's and watch sappy movies.
Do I need to knock someone out?
As long as you recognize the lies as lies, you're headed in the right direction. The crazies will stop talking when they realize you're not paying attention. And the crazies are saying stuff that really makes no sense at all.
There's nothing sniveling or whiney about feeling hurt. But please remind yourself in between the sniffles that you didn't do anything wrong here.
hey...
new here
and right away
i can totally tell
you are so not a loser.
plus
you quote sylvia plath...
that is cool.
:O)
and you comment on my blog...
which is sweet
xo...
be easy on yourself.
At least you got out of this without too much time and hopefully too much heart and soul invested. Interesting that he was ready for sex, but not ready to date. A guy that Kelli went out with told her that he didn't feel a connection with her, but he still would really like to have sex with her. We should have bought him a hooker just for being honest.
So you just watch the little crazies walk by. You say, out loud, oh look there they are again. Those poor little things. They come here because they don't have anywhere else to go.
And as they march by in their dejected little parade you give them a little hug,
honey you dodged a bullet,
oh sweetie he wasn't a nice guy by definaitiion or he wouldn't be playing these games,
oh little darlin' girl, you were just a little too healthy for him...etc etc
You hug those little crazies with some affirmations and they will grow up to be saner and gentler thoughts....
Kate is great!
She eats chocolate cake!
Kate is great!
She eats chocolate cake!
I know, nothing to do with anything, but I hope it cheered you up anyway.
look at all this great support on your blog! That is awesome.
You're not a loser. I've known you for a LOOOOOOONG time and never once have I thought you were a loser.
You'll get through this. This is just a shitty little bump in the road.
MWAH
So many eggs...
I wish I could give you a hug.
Do you think it would have been worth the attempt to keep this guy around if it meant having a potentially uncontrolled extreme experience?
Say this to yourself, "I've come a long way and I'm not going back for anything."
But wait...what is this. When I start in on myself, I always think, would I say this to a friend? NO! You're so lovely. This guy -- well, he's a schmo.
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