r u ready 4 me?

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Therapy Tuesday. Bah! I didn't post yesterday since I had nothing good to say. Nothing.

I took my laptop to work so my co-worker and I could peruse match.com (It's blocked on our work computers. Imagine that...) and after I started deleting people left and right because of spelling errors in their profiles she said, "Is Therapy Tuesday a good day to be doing this?" and I finally laughed and said, "No. It's not. But if someone was really serious about finding a partner online, wouldn't you think they'd at least check their SPELLING?" And she turned off the computer.

But I'm asking you internet. Seriously. Am I such a bitch that I think grammatical errors say something about a person's character? That if they have things like want2bethe1foru as their headline, they're probably imbeciles? I get all judgy about that. Might explain why people don't respond to my profile? Maybe my headline should be "Miss Prissy Pants Needs Someone to Burst Her Bubble" or some such nonsense.

I try to be open minded, I really do. Really. Or I might just be lying to myself....

22 comments:

[F]oxymoron said...

If a person can't spell, is it really fair to assume that they'll be astute students in bed?

saratogajean said...

I had a brief foray in the world of online dating, and I deleted people left and right.

No initial caps?

Incorrect punctuation?

Obvious spelling mistakes?

Gone. I mean, come on. I can forgive an "'i' before 'e' except after 'c'" slip up, but everyone knows there is an "o" in "people," right?

lacochran said...

I say you're getting clearer on what is acceptable and what isn't and that can only be a good thing. Perhaps "ISO anal-retentive soul-mate"? :)

t2ed said...

I've long been a proponent that before you should be allowed to have sex there should be a test as a barrier just like with driving licenses.

And if they can't fill out the forms correctly, no Sex License for you.

Because if they can't spell, they'll never be a cunning linguist.

Wow, that was really a long, long way to go for that cheap joke. I hope you appreciate it.

CatKrny said...

No use fooling yourself. If you haven't mastered the English language by the time you hit 30, you are not life partner material for someone who has. So did you officially cut the first internet guy loose?

Kate said...

Foxy - I'm not saying they're not good in bed, but as a long term partner? No way.

SJ - You're a woman after my own heart.

Lacochran - I pretend that I'm not anal retentive on a daily basis.
t2ed - you're naughty. Oh so naughty.

Cathy - No, he's not officially let loose. Not yet.

Sweetly Single said...

Seriously if they don't care about the image they are sending ..... you are right to cut them off.

Malaise Inc said...

I will agree that writing in l33t belies a lack of seriousness, but is spelling really more important that sincerity? Punctuation more important than a pleasant personality? Capitalization more important than caring? Grammar more than grace?

Alliteratively yours,

stoogepie said...

I think that if someone doesn't stink -- meaning they know how to properly wipe themselves when they get off the toilet, and that they change their underwear every now and then and maybe use deodorant sometimes -- then she or he is fine partner material. Imposing qualifications like "English speaking" on top of the stink test just narrows the field way too much.

In case I have offended anyone, I would just like to add that some of my best friends stink.

Sara said...

Nothing wrong with weeding out the bad ones. Why waste your time dating idiots? You are an intelligent woman. You know what you want. Be choosy -- it's your right!

GreenCanary said...

With online dating, spelling is like appearance. If you meet someone in person and they're all messy and rumpled, you tend to think that they approach their life in the same manner. Who wants to be with someone whose life is messy and rumpled? There are always exceptions, but when all you have to go one are someone's words, those words (and how they're spelled) take on greater meaning.

Shania said...

Good grief, I delete BLOGS based on spelling errors. And I consider my blog reading much more important than personal relationships. Of course, my spelling and grammer errors must be excused.

Kate said...

I just want to point out that all the women somewhat agree with me and all the men are kinda taking me to task here. Might be why I'm single...

Megkathleen said...

I completely agree! It doesn't even matter what their ad actually says if it's completely misspelled instead it just says Hi, I'm a dummy.

Stapeliad said...

No I'd be the same way. And apostrophes at the end of plural words. That makes me bonkers.

Malaise Inc said...

All the men? There are only two of us. So, let me just point one thing out and then let y'all get back to your hen party.

Consider that bad spelling could be a sign of dyslexia, a condition that can affect otherwise intelligent people.

Okay, you can get back to you "bwawk, bwawk, bwawking" now.

Kate said...

Bawk bawk bawk, there's three of you mens on here. BUT, I hear what you're saying. I do. I think part of the problem is that when I was drinking, my typing and spelling totally disintegrated and I read them and just think they're drunks like I used to be. And it scares me.

Meigan said...

English major weighing in, and yes, I totally agree with you. Totally. It drives me NUTS when people use bad spelling & grammer, but I think that's just how I'm hardwired. My DH can't always write perfectly & it kind of endears him to me. Makes me grind my teeth silently, but endears him to me...

rudecactus said...

I think those are totally valid evaluation criteria.

CatKrny said...

It depends on the nature of the mistake. It's easy to forgive a few keystroke errors. It's the stuff that shows that the person really doesn't know better that blacklists them. And substituting single letters and numbers for words is immature to a generation that didn't grow up texting. Oh and grace is impossible without grammar.

Kristen said...

Oh I'd totally rule people out based on that too. If you can't even communicate properly in your profile, what hope do you have in a relationship?

Nilsa S. said...

When I was on match.com, I rarely gave those not inclined to use spell check or use they're/their/your/you're properly a second look. Seriously, how can I consider a relationship when your emails drive me bat-crazy? So, go on with your bad self. You'll find a grammatically correct boy out there. I promise!