Staying the Course

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You all told me I was so pretty with wind blown hair and no makeup that I changed my profile picture. Thanks for the compliments. I do believe I am most happy when I am at my most natural; sunburned, wind scarred and tired.

There is trouble afoot in Kate's paradise. It's not my trouble, but because I love the people involved, it concerns me and it makes me sad and anxious. I listen. That is my job. Listening. And I'm good at it today. I used to be so very self absorbed, that I couldn't really hear what another person was saying. But today, I take it all in. I hear it. I feel it, and I give my best response to it. And it hurts me that people in my life feel pain. I know that's normal. And for God's sake. Being able to put myself out of the picture and feel someone else's hurt is a blessing to me. It means I am a truly compassionate human being - of which I was nothing of the sort three years ago.

But pain - no matter it's form - has to run it's course. And pain is just that. Pain. Hurt. Agony. And there's nothing I can do to make it's path diminish. We have to walk through whatever life hands us. And it's up to us to make the decision to do it with self-esteem and valor and not defeat and addiction. In the meantime, I hold my own. Because if I stay my own course, I am most helpful to other people.

10 comments:

Kristin said...

My prayers are with you and those that you love who are hurting!

The Good Cook said...

Life is hard sometimes. It helps to have wonderful, caring, listening friends to help us through the tough times. Your friends are lucky they have you. All things pass with time...

Jeff D'Antonio said...

Pain is the price we pay for having the ability to feel. But when shared with another person its intensity is greatly diminished. It's a human bonding thing. We all feel pain, and because we share that common bond, we all have the ability to understand and feel compassion for the pain of others. Finding our capacity to share someone else's pain is one of the greatest gifts we can ever give to another human being.

Sometimes just being there is the best thing you can do for someone you love.

BrianAlt said...

Yes, yes indeed.

Sometimes if there is no pain, there is no emotion at all.

Correct?

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badmuthafudruckers said...

I'm sorry, Kate.

melissalion said...

I'm sure the person feels a bit better knowing you're there and ready to help.

artemisia said...

My. I doubt many of us are in a place to listen so well. Thank goodness for you, Kate, in their lives.

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks said...

It is definitely hard to see the ones you love in pain. But, without that, we never get to see them overcome obstacles and rise above. I hope your friends find the speedy peace they need.

Jen said...

You are so right, we just have walk through whatever life hands us, there's no way around it.

MilesPerHour said...

There isn't much more I can add to what others have said. I know that for me, there is no going around my difficulties, I must go through them.